Prolonged divorce action can negatively affect children

Although some Wisconsin couples recognize the potential for divorce at the outset of their marriages, many imagine that their relationships will last indefinitely. Difficulties can lead to the consideration of filing for divorce, but many couples will still endeavor to reconcile their differences. Even if the action begins, some will continue to try to work things out, prolonging the action in hopes of resolving their differences. However, it is important to be aware of the impact of such activity on one’s children.

As divorce action begins, a parent’s move out of the home may signal a serious change in life. The transition can be more painful if the matter carries on for an extended period of time. A parent might deal with emotional conflict over the divorce based on advice from friends and family or because of their belief system. Some deal with guilt over the decision and the potential consequences for the family. However, the uncertainty that is created because of a delay in concluding the matter could cause a child to remain unfocused, worried and insecure.

In a particularly stressful parental relationship, it is important to transition into a co-parenting role that will promote a sense of love and security for the children. This could require some counseling to address the emotional challenges related to the deterioration of the marriage. Sound decisions are important for providing the children with stability, and a comprehensive parenting plan can provide a framework for addressing any disputes or concerns.

In some cases, one parent might find the need to request changes in a parenting plan. If a parent decides to relocate because of a new marriage or job change, for example, it may be necessary to seek a modification. However, minor changes to holiday schedules or vacation visitation periods might be addressed in the initial plan as negotiated by their respective attorneys.